Perfect's Not Easy: My Struggle with Being a Perfectionist

Oklahoma blogger Amanda Martin shares her struggle with being a perfectionist
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Warning: I'm about to get real with you! Pour yourself a glass of Red Diamond iced tea and let's dig in.

I'm far from perfect, but I am a perfectionist. It's a flaw, but it can also be a good thing. I spend entirely too much time and effort trying to look perfect, act perfect, have the perfect house, the perfect hair, the perfect Instagram feed, the perfect marriage, the perfect life. I am very much a victim of Keeping up with the Jones' and hate doing things I'm not good at (hello, enneagram 3). One tiny flaw from my perfectly structured agenda can make me feel like an utter failure and can cause me to lose my mind for a hot second (or a hot couple of hours, ha). I run myself into the ground by saying yes / doing too many things at once and it always catches up to me. I do something perfect for so long until I burn out and can't do it at all anymore.....I say screw it and ruin or unravel all my hard work. Those are faults that I'm aware of and trying hard to overcome.

On the other hand, being a perfectionist has its perks and can be a good thing, in a way. I'm constantly trying to be the best version of "me" that I can be. I'm always working to grow my blog/Instagram and make something of myself. I'm trying to eat better, tone up and get stronger/faster/fitter at the gym on a regular basis. I'm attempting to keep my house cleaner, my dogs more brushed and my marriage as happy as it can be. I give myself me time, the occasional slice of chocolate cake and lots of self love (even if it's in the form of lash extensions or spray tans). These are all things that when done correctly, bring happiness and contentment to my very structured, type A mind and make me feel successful and pleased with myself.

All that being said, perfect's not easy, ya'll (even if it looks like it from my feed). I am not even close to perfect and have my fair share of flaws, but I still keep trying to better myself.....even if that means being less of a perfectionist!

My Experience with Hand Tied Extensions

According to OKC blogger Amanda Martin, hand tied extensions make chunky braids much better!

Truth time: my hair is my favorite thing about myself. It always has been! That might be shallow, but whatever. I've been a "Becky with the Good Hair" since I was in highschool and it makes me feel beautiful. I chopped my hair off like Reece Witherspoon in Sweet Home Alabama when I was 12 and vowed to never have short hair again. I grew it back out and since I was 14, I've had the exact same hair cut, color and style. If it ain't broke, don't fix it...ya feel me? the last year or so my perfect blonde locks started thinning out and not growing like they used to. Maybe it is from too much heat, maybe it is from color, maybe it is a part of getting older. Whatever it is, since my hair has always been such a big part of my identity (especially on Instagram), it was causing some insecurities and frustrations. Most people would probably say it would be healthier to reinvent your identity and love your new self instead of indulging yourself....but I digress. I tried hair growth supplements, I tried expensive repairing products and nothing was working.

OKC by the Districts: Deep Deuce

OKC Blogger Amanda Martin shares her guide to the Deep Deuce District of Oklahoma City

Hi, fellow Okies and potential visitors!! I'm back with another OKC by the Districts post (you can find my others here). These are some of my favorite posts to write because I get to share places I genuinely love in my home-sweet-homa. Today we're heading to Deep is not an area that I frequent but that doesn't mean it isn't worth visiting! Deep Deuce is just north of Bricktown and was originally OKC's African American neighborhood in the 20's - 50's; it was known for it's jazz music! Today, it is a vibrant urban neighborhood filled with apartments, condos and other urban homes surrounded by a few delicious restaurants.

I always think of Deep Deuce as being very clean and well kept. It doesn't have that grimy downtown/city feel, but it definitely feels like it is at the heart of an urban area.

Roomkey Took Us Out to the Ballgame

This post is sponsored by Roomkey. As always, all thoughts and opinions are my own.

Raise your hand if you're guilty of booking a trip and completely neglecting to find a place to stay until the last minute. 🙋🏼‍♀️ I am a huge type-A planner and love a good hotel stay but the process of finding the right one for the right price can be so tedious, stressful and frustrating! It has to be aesthetically pleasing but affordable, conveniently located, and a part of the right loyalty program. Bonus points if there is a yummy breakfast included!

Insert: Roomkey. They make the hotel search quick and easy. When C and I snagged four amazing tickets to a Texas Rangers game and asked our friends to tag along for a double date, we knew we had to find two affordable hotel rooms close to the ballpark....and equally as close to some of our favorite DFW restaurants (i.e. La Madeleine and Twisted Root, YUM)! Roomkey came to the rescue and helped us score two gigantic king rooms at the Hilton Arlington. From our 14th floor room window, you could see Six Flags, Globe Life Park, and Dallas Cowboy Stadium!

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